Archive for the ‘Motivation’ Category

Leading Questions: When You Think You Know the Answer

Wednesday, May 20th, 2009

I’ve been noticing this a lot lately. Some one will ask a question that assumes the answer. In which case, why ask the question? And are you really listening when they give an answer or are you hearing what you expect?

For example, I heard an account manager ask a client, “do you have concerns with usage or budget?” Well, after hearing that, I’d have concerns about both. How about, “What are your concerns?” instead.

More often than not leading questions happen when the person is uncomfortable with the question they are about to ask and so they keep talking after they ask the question. See above.

My advice is twofold: 1) If you are afraid of the answer, get over it before you ask the question. 2) Stop talking. Say as little as possible and just listen. Otherwise you are going to get the answer that is making you afraid to ask the question.

Also, it’s never as bad as you think, until you make it so. Often when it seems as bad as you think, if just truly listen, you usually uncover that there is a very solvable problem underneath.

Getting the Itch to Create Things

Friday, April 3rd, 2009

It’s been awhile since I’ve posted here and I’m not quite ready to say I’ll be picking it up again on a regular basis. But I have been getting the urge lately to get back into creating things. I’m not sure what things quite yet. But something is brewing.

For the past six months, I’ve been completely consumed by work. I moved from a straight up product management role (where all I did was make things) to an operations role, and have done everything from selling to account management to expense management to you name it. While I love the variety and the new array of challenges and problems to solve, my brain keeps reminding me that I really like to create things and I’m not getting enough of that lately.

Work has been tough. The world is tough right now. We have way too much to do and not enough people. My days are long. I wake up to sell (that means getting up when it’s dark out), and I typically stick around until the last engineers are gone (that means it’s dark out). I’m not complaining. Most of the time I love it. But on a Friday night, when I start to think about all the things I would like to create, but am too tired to work through a half-baked idea, I get a little sad.

This week, I left work early a few times. That was good. Trying to recharge the batteries a bit. It’s no big surprise that slowing down, brought back the need to create things. It feels good.

More to come …

How to Find Motivation When Stuck in a Rut

Wednesday, February 13th, 2008

As evident by my lack of posts this past week, I’ve been stuck in a bit of a rut. Not just in blogging, but in most areas of my life. My house is a disaster, I was feeling overwhelmed at work and I’ve had a string of injuries that is driving me crazy. I realized that I was getting into a tailspin of negativity, which was keeping me from being productive. I’m not back to full speed yet, but here’s what I am doing to help me get charged up again.

1) Allow yourself time to relax.

I do a lot. When I start to get in a rut, the first thing I do is embrace it. I think it’s important to have periods of laziness and inactivity. It allows your body and more importantly your brain to recover from the rigors of an active life. Of course, I can’t embrace it for too long without feeling the stress of falling behind. But I do allow myself an evening or two to do absolutely nothing. I indulge myself by watching a dvd of my favorite tv show or spend hours leisurely leafing through magazines. To fend off the stress of feeling irresponsible, I set a time limit and I savor ever moment of it.

2) Start Small, Just Do Something

When I fall behind, I have a really hard time starting. If I think about doing all the dishes, I don’t even want to start. Instead, I break it up. I tell myself, I’m just going to unload the dishwasher. That’s not an overwhelming task. But almost always, after unloading the dishwasher, I keep going and load up the dirty dishes. The same works for me at work and in every other aspect of life.

3) Ease Back in by Taking Breaks

When I get stuck in a rut, it’s usually because I worked too hard or did too much and am experiencing burn out. If I try to dive right back in, I often find myself back where I started, in another rut. Instead, I treat it like I’m recovering from a physical illness. I break things up into manageable sizes and I take lots of breaks. During this time, I might not be very efficient but I know that I’ll be more efficient in the long run. Going slower now, is worth knowing that I’ll be back to full-speed in no time.

4) Surround Yourself with Other Doers

I feed off of the energy of others. If I’m hanging out with people who are also in a rut, it’s nearly impossible for me to get out of it. I seek out people who are going full tilt and feed off of their energy.

5) Start the Day With Exercise - No Matter How Little

When I start the day with exercise I feel more energized. Often this is the first habit to go by the way side when I get stuck in a rut. Getting back into this routine helps to get my body and mind back into action-mode.

How do you get out of ruts? Share your tips in the comments.